“உடையது விளம்பேல்” – ஆத்திச்சூடி

Do not brag about your possessions – wealth, skills, knowledge – Aathichoodi

 

Showing off comes out in many ways like, showing off wealth, showing off educational qualifications, showing off career achievements, etc. Showing off is not a healthy way to express. Since childhood, we are taught that we should not show off. However, we still see few people who tend to show off. We will try to understand who they are and why are they doing so.

People often showing off for various reasons. It is all about mental state of a person from past to present. They might do so because of the insecure feel on relationships, financial conditions and unclear career path.

Showing off is not a disease. It is just an individual’s behaviour in public. For some people it always matters what is other’s opinion in everything they do. We may see people around who are doing cool stuff but with artificial facial expression. That is because, they do such stuff just for the better public opinion even if they do not like to do. In some instances, the public are aware of all these still they do watch without any comment to avoid unwanted conflicts. Few friends might step-in to alert the person who is pretending to do cool stuff.

Abusive childhood experience is a major contributing factor for show off. Many kids are being abused for factors like look, caste, family status. Even if the children are silent spectators at that point, when they grow up they tried to give it back in their style. Lack of attention and recognition at needed time also another important factor. To exhibit the strong personality traits in above all situations showing off is an alternative people choose.

Many tend to prove themselves in each and everything. So they choose this way. Some people use showing off as a tool to compensate for their past. For example, who did not have a proper house and gone through some society pressure; show off with a luxury house in present even if they do not like such a house.

Always wanting to get complements. Even though waiting for complements for our work is a normal thing, show off people expect it for everything they do. There are two types of people out there on this. Few will do their work perfectly just to get complements. Even if it is show off purpose, we should think about their self-motivation and the work perfection. The second type of people are different. They do create a group around them to appreciate even for their lower performing jobs.

It is not that tough to find out whether the person is showing off. They used to be extra cautions that others should not find it as showing off. They always try to act normal even for tense situations. They easily get irritated when other people show off in front of them. In recent day, many people who show off are addicted to selfie and Instagram.