Many wonder how retired life will be. Post retirement life style is not same in all the countries. Culture and society has a major role in deciding post retirement life. If a person is naturally of happy personality then not much changes as a retiree. Because they do not search for happiness around. They know what makes them happy and how to stay that way in all situations.

Major challenge is moving from work-life status to retirement-life status. Transition becomes tough when the identity of a person is known only by their job. Few people make their identity through multiple roles and they will have some relaxing points. If there are no relaxing points then they get into depression and look withdrawn from family and friends. Men are more into depression compared to women post retirement. However, people who worked in tough environmental conditions feel relaxed after retirement.

Pre-retirement planning comes with saving for the future. Saving for the future does not mean finance alone. During the working years, many are having the clouds on mind about future and they try to save enough. In mean time, they forget to create some memories to look back. Having big digit number in bank balance will not give the happiness post retirement and life is not measured with those digits. It is a choice by a person how the retired life should be. They can choose their behaviour and related actions to keep the life cheerful.

Honeymoon days come after retirement. Retirees make plans during pre-retirement stage itself. Their plans majorly are family get together, visiting long-time friends, visiting relatives, travelling, visiting spiritual places and settling in ancestral house. This honeymoon period may vary person to person based on their plans in bags. It might be from days to years.

Retirement is not long-term vacation. When they become free from the above-mentioned honeymoon phase, they start to feel lonely and at times useless. Rethinking about life in a new dimension and redefining daily routines becomes mandatory. Those who do that properly will move on easily with their post retirement life.

Moving on is not an easy task to achieve overnight. People who came from low economical background to job are extra cautious about their financial planning. Even though they are self sustained post retirement, they get into fear and anxiety remembering their old struggling days. For a first generation employee, retirement is totally a different emotion as they have some emotional attachment with their jobs.

Many people we see are sacrificing their cheerfulness in hard and challenging work place to provide comfortable life for their loved ones. They run behind money for kids education, buying own house and children’s marriage. However, after retirement, it takes time for them to realize the fact that their children are now adults and they have their own priorities. This phase creates conflicts between parents and children.

Instead of sharing their experience, few retirees try forcing their lessons learnt into their children. Retiree who feels guilty of his past lavish life style and who did not saved anything, tend to emotionally force stringent lifestyle on their adult children who are married. The other category of people, even though they have financial stability, they can’t let any expenses go out of their hands. At times, they get into arguments. When a working youngster wants the contemporary lifestyle but feels emotionally pulled back by parents. Above said all such incidents form an explosive atmosphere at home and this ends up creating a big drift between retired parents and children.

There are very few retirees, who inspired by the latest trend and life style, try to get along and enjoy with their children.

Emotional conflicts at home lead to feeling of less self-worth. Some might have the feeling of missing office friends. When it comes to people retiring from management positions, they start to feel that their status is gone and they no more have any power. Financial and emotional needs after retirement must be handled with care and support.

 

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